So… what’s your family identity? Are you the family of hikers? Are you the family of jokesters? Are you the family committed to helping others? Do you even know what your family identity is? Don’t feel bad if you don’t because I’m sure there are many families out there that haven’t given this much thought, especially to the importance of it. I can’t say I’m 100% sure what our family identity is, but we are working on it. At the moment, I’m trying communicate to my family that we are the family of integrity. We mean what we say, we do what’s right, even if it is the difficult decision, and we go out of our way to help others. I want to burn this into every one of my family member’s subconscious because whenever they are faced with a difficult decision, especially my young ones; they will think to themselves, “Well, I’m a Sharpy, so I have to do the right thing.”
I do this because I want my kids to have that sense of identity to gravitate to whenever their peers start encouraging behavior that may be considered questionable. You see, I try to stay up on current events and let’s face it; the events that are currently taking place in this world are usually pretty discouraging. There are so many outside influences that are clamoring to infect my children and my children are desperate for something to identify with. I know that if I don’t fill that need, someone else will and I’ll likely not be too happy about it.
I’ve made it a point to talk about our identity any chance I get and it’s working. My 6 year old daughter is now repeating it back to me. She even corrected me when I was joking about sneaking a treat without my wife knowing. She then said to me, “But daddy, we’re Sharpy’s. We don’t sneak.” It was a proud moment for me. At that moment, some of the fear that I have about my little girl growing up in this world chipped away. And I know that it will only get better over time.
I’m no expert, just a Dad with the desire to do my best.