Gentleman, I have some great advice for you in leaving an everlasting impression on your kids. Every chance you get, I want you to make out with your wife… in front of the kids! Gross them out! Go out of your way to touch her, hug her, give her gifts that show how much you care and most importantly, constantly tell her how much you love her. Do as much as you can of that in front of the children. They may give you a hard time and let you know that they are ready to lose their lunch or how embarrassing you might be, but I promise that is not the case. Your children need to see it. As nauseous as they claim it makes them, deep down they take away a sense of security. They don’t have to guess how strong their family bond is. In this day and age, where marriages are on the decline and divorces are on the rise, our kids need to know they are safe.
Growing up, I never received an example like this. All I understood was a childhood of broken homes and I got to see examples of men who treated my mother poorly. Fortunately, what I took away from it all was how not to treat a woman. I feel lucky that the male influences in my life taught me some very important lessons, even though they didn’t know it. I’m a better man for it today.
You see, I love my wife. And I love to love her. And I love to love her in front of my kids. I love to hear my daughter in the background saying, “Ewww, daddy! That’s gross!” All with a subtle giggle under her voice. Because what I hear is, “my family is safe. I can worry about more important things like, whether I can wear my Hello Kitty shirt tomorrow at school.” My goal is to leave no doubt in their minds. I want to be the example of how a man should treat a woman. I want my daughter to think about all the time she was grossed out when the time comes for her to choose her mate and know that she will accept nothing less than someone like her daddy. I want my son to have these images burned into his brain, so that when he chooses his mate he will love, cherish and honor her always… because that’s what his daddy does.
I’m blessed with a wife that did have that example growing up. She was constantly embarrassed by her parents because not only would they do this in front of them, they would do it in front of her friends. To this day, you can’t walk into my in-law’s home without bearing witness to a G rated peep show. It’s all she knows. And it’s all she would accept. It became so important to her that it took her 33 years to find the man that fit the mold she held most high… her father. And she chose me. What an honor that is. I only wish you all the same because there is nothing like it. I wish that for your children because they deserve it. So go on guys… start loving on your wives and watch your kids squirm!