We are often forced to make changes in our lives when it comes to relationships. It seems that more times then not, our relationships end with anger or hurt and very rarely because it was the healthy choice to make. We all want to be in the position of being able to make the right choices in choosing a partner and to be able to recognize when it no longer fits. But how?
What do you do when there is no pivotal moment that forces your hand into a decision? What if all you do is wake up one day and something feels wrong? What if it’s all sparked by a simple conversation and the next thing you know,…. you realize that this relationship has no future,…or at least not right now.
Our lives are filled with experiences that shape us and mold us into who we are to become. Who we date or spend time with along the way could very well be the right fit “for now.” Then again, we could find ourselves in a situation where the timing is wrong. If that’s the case, how do we know that if we move on, we will reunite with that person again?
My husband and I met when we were in high school at 16-17 years old. I had much growing to do to be the woman who would be able to take on a divorced man with a child. The woman I needed to be, the man he needed to be…we were not able to become by each others side that early in life. We needed the experiences that lied ahead for us. It’s so clear for me to see now that all the relationships that I had up until I met my husband were to prepare me for the man I would spend forever with.
I had to understand the heartache to appreciate the man who would cherish my heart. My relationships with men who had addictive personalities taught me a great deal about myself that I needed to learn in order to become a healthier individual and to tackle my own inadequacies. I had to experience a long distance romance before in order to prepare me for the inevitable out of state move that I would take when I finally met my husband. In hindsight, it all makes sense today.
We have all suffered the loss of a relationship and as much as it hurts we all know this one truth,….a day does come where the pain is gone. At the end of the dark tunnel, we see the light and we smile again. Time has a way of healing us and making us stronger. It reminds us when the present starts to look like our past and gives us the opportunity to make a change.
Trust your heart and call on life’s lessons to point you in the right direction. Have no fear, have faith and begin again.