This afternoon I will leave for a weekend getaway with my 8-year-old daughter, Lexi. We try to do this at least once a year, but I’m realizing that it should happen even more often. I also plan on doing the same thing with my 4-year-old daughter, Hannah, in a few weeks.
Whenever Lexi and I start to get on each others nerves, which has been happening a lot lately, I begin to realize that what we really need is not space, but what we really need is some alone time together.
Every time we go on one of these weekend excursions, we come away from it much closer. Our relationship becomes stronger. We are creating special memories together. Even though we have a wonderful relationship, these trips together serve to strengthen the bond that we already share.
Weekend trips with your kids are so important. I will continue to do this with them into their teenage and college years. Taking some alone time with your kids lets them know how much you value them as a person. The best way to strengthen a relationship is to give your loved one your undivided attention. This is especially needed as they become teenagers. Your willingness to set aside some time out of your busy schedule to be with your child gets into their soul. It tells them that they matter. It tells them that they are important to you. Time is so valuable. It really does seem to move a little too swiftly along.
Life does seem to get so busy. Maybe you really don’t have time to take a whole weekend off. Well, a good friend once told me that sometimes it’s not always quality time that matters. Sometimes it’s quantity time that makes a huge difference. In other words, include your kids in every day tasks. If you’re running to the store, have one of your children go with you. Have your son (or daughter) hand you the tools as you fix the car. Ask your daughter to sit with you as you make dinner. Ask your kids to help you fold clothes. Use these moments as an opportunity to talk about your kids. Find out what’s new with them. Ask them about their day. Really listen to what they have to say. Sneaking in these little moments with each of your children, sharing your time with them, will go a long way to show them the importance you place on your relationship.
So, I look forward to this weekend alone with my daughter. It means as much to me as it does to her.